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心血来潮，看看婚姻的路有多长。。。 

1 - 纸婚PAPER, on which you can write
2 - 棉婚COTTON, all crisp and white,
3 - 皮婚LEATHER, a bag or some gloves,
4 - 花果婚/蜡婚BOOKS, Lady Chatterley's loves!
5 - 木婚WOOD, a box full of dreams,
6 - 铁/糖婚IRON/SUGAR, metal not steam
7 - 羊毛婚/铜婚WOOL, soft and warm
8 - 铜婚/电婚/虞美人婚BRONZE, metal in an elegant form
9 - 陶婚COPPER
10 – 锡婚TIN, if you have got this far you are bound to win.
11 - 钢婚STEEL, so shiny and bright      
12 - 丝婚/亚麻婚/珊瑚婚SILK, so soft and so light,                
13 - 花边婚/铃兰婚LACE, maybe a cloth for a tray,
14 - 象牙婚/铅婚IVORY, leave it for Jumbo, it’s better that way!
15 - 水晶婚CRYSTAL, cut glass at its best,
20 - 瓷婚CHINA, cups, plates and the rest,
25 - 银婚SILVER - really swell
30 - 珍珠婚PEARL - from an oyster's shell
35 - 珊瑚婚/玉婚CORAL, from under the sea
40 - 红宝石婚RUBY, as red as red can be
45 - 蓝宝石婚SAPPHIRE - precious and blue
50 - 金婚GOLDEN - Congratulations to you!
55 - 绿宝石婚EMERALD - so green and so pure,
60 - 钻石婚DIAMOND - an achievement for sure.
65 - 金刚婚BLUE SAPPHIRE 
70 - 白金婚/福婚PLATINUM

The last two which are reached by some

75 - 白石婚/王冠婚DIAMOND AND GOLD / RHODIUM 
80 - 橡树婚OAK or something suitable for the very old!

Thanks http://www.hintsandthings.com/library/anniversary.htm　和百度。

Babies are so cute, but we need to control the existence of exra babies, sometimes.
So... choose a contraceptive method.

Apart from all the pros & cons, a simple calculation may help.

1. Contraceptive implant (http://www.patient.co.uk/health/Implanon-The-Contraceptive-Implant.htm) - RM650 for 3 years, i.e. RM0.59 per day.
2. If you opt for pills, take the average cost of RM43 for 21 days (1 mth cycle)(some good pills cost up to RM100 a month), then it'll cost you about RM1,548 for 3 years, i.e. RM1.41 per day.
3. Condom. There are expensive & cheap ones. Says RM15 for 10... well, it depends on how active you & your partner are (*Wink wink*). To match the implant cost, you can only be active in every 2.5 days (hmmm, I think this is sufficient).
4. Biological planning i.e. count your days. Costless. But the possible cost incurred due to the consequence of unsafe activity is RM1mil (study said that's the cost to raise a kid)! This does not even taken into account the childbirth, medical, college fees, as well as opportunity costs. Go risk your whole life of physical, mental & financial freedom.

However, contraceptive implant is not that great afterall. The side effect of irregular & prolong period is irritating. But just that.

My verdict?
Anything. But do ask the men to contribute something-lah ($$). Yeah.

;-)

And he forgot to mention that our stress reduces as each day passes by.
The wrinkles fade, pores get smaller, skin gets softer, smoother & more delicate by the day.
Oops... for the women, our boobs get shrunk & eventually gone totally flat!
Our salary reduces annually as we are demoted each year.
Our imported sedan gradually downgraded to a Kancil, a bike, a bicycle, a kid bicycle, and a baby walker...
Our favourite buffet lunch, 5-course dinner, red wine, steak, laksa, sambal petai will slowly turned into boring cereal & steamed carrot. Near to the very end, milk & milk & milk all the way!

No way.

Contractions - it does not always happen like how the books or even experienced mothers have described it - that contractions are intermittent. Mine started like a pinch at the belly button and I didn't sense that as contractions. Not even when I was woken at 3.30am by the continuous, acute pain at the tummy.

I parked myself in the toilet and scared myself a bit as imageries of people labour in the toilet flashed to mind... refrained from "pushing" too hard as I scared my son may smash into the toilet bowl.

Reaching at the hospital, nurses and midwives asked if I were having contractions as if I know exactly how contractions are like... "I don't know-lah nurse!" . Contraction monitor showed it actually happened by minute - wow, that's the frequency of official labour. But my cervix hadn't dilate, so I had some time to decide if I want to go for C-section or wait for the nature's call.

Caesarean hurts - all the old mummies will tell you that it hurts - you couldn't get down the bed, it is painful when you cough or laugh, the wound heals very slow. But there are at least 3 mothers (including me) to testify that the wound doesn't hurt, AT ALL. Maybe our gyneas are very skillful, the wound was stitched up so perfectly nice that it doesn't hurt at all, from day one till it heals. I should have bet on this and earn some money for milk powder :-)

Delivery thru C-section - all this while I thot baby will be pulled and scooped out from the tummy thru the incision. That's what I learn from YouTube. Apparently, the gynea will press hard on your stomach and ooze the baby out thru the incision. And that was extremely painful on the stomach!! - I guess because epidural numbs your bottom half but not the upper half! Or maybe mine is a special case - anyway, it is not peculiar that people do SCREAM during C-section. I did :p

Brief your husband properly! - I really regret I didn't brief my husband properly on what to do in the operating theater. He should have snapped some precious photos while the baby is lifted from my tummy or while he is naked and layered with traces of blood. He did nothing except turning his head away! He said he was scared!

Engorged breasts - for those who are blessed with abundant of breast milk, unfortunately, it doesn't happen once and go away. As long as you continue to breastfeed, your breasts will engorge as they fill itself with milk. They swell like hell! They don't feel like yours, they are just 2 hard rocks sticking on your chest and they hurt like hell! The stinging pain endures and you couldn't even sleep. They also look so fake that as if you have had a boob job! :-(

Dr Guna did an ultra sound and highlighted to me the little penis on the screen... "Maybe it's a boy!".

Ahh!.... chromosome Y won the battle.

Technical way to increase the chance of getting a boy / girl
My former boss, Sharon is a bio-chemical expert, you may really want to refer to her theory to enhance your chance of having a baby boy or girl.

• Men produce 2 types of sperms, one carries chromosome Y i.e. the gene of male & the other X, i.e. the gene of female.
• Y sperm is lighter, stronger, can swim faster but has a shorter life span - 3 days (Probably energy is exhausted during the life race).
  
• X sperm is genetically "fatter", a slow swimmer but has a longer life span - 5 days.
  

Knowing such characteristics, you can count your ovulation day and "do business" accordingly. Ovulation normally happens around 12th day of your period (but you can buy test kit to monitor), so make love 4-5 days earlier will enhance the chance of X sperms meeting the egg. Vice versa, having sex close to your ovulation will likely to help Y sperms to win the battle.

(I'm in my 2nd trimester, 16 weeks)